What are we teaching our children about love?

A thought occurred to me the other day, about our idea of what love is as a culture, and how potentially harmful it is. We seem to associate true love with true drama. Think about it: all the classic stories of the good girl falling for the bad boy, or relationships going through problem after problem before they make it to the finish line… this is the stuff of movies. Even if the problems are inflicted on the couple from outside forces, it still reinforces it in our collective brains that love is made sweeter by drama.

I call bullshit on that.

Real love is when your husband picks all the red gummy bears out of the bag for you because he knows they’re your favorite.

Real love is when he lets you cry on his shoulder even when there’s snot and drool running down your face.

Real love is changing a poopy diaper after you’ve been working all day so your wife doesn’t have to change her seventh.

Notice how there was no mention of fights, familial warfare or thwarting enemies in any of those statements? Unfortunately, no one makes movies about quiet Sunday mornings where the only conflict between the characters is whether they drive to Fred Meyer or the grocery store first. But isn’t that really what we want for our kids? Love isn’t supposed to be the stuff netflix is made of. Love is supposed to be comfortable. Love is supposed to be something you can depend on to get you through even the darkest days.

That is what I wish for my daughter.

Author Interview: S. Brione Lim

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Welcome to S. Brione Lim! Read on to learn more about this awesome author, and see how her favorite quote can be applied to the writing life, as well as life in general:


1) Tell us a little about your book.

a. Two Outta Three is a fun take on unrequited love and is not your typical friends-to-lovers novel. It follows best friends, Raquel (Rocky) Rossi and her best friend Jesse Tyler as they dance the awkward waltz of reconnecting after many years apart.
2) What is your favorite part about writing? Least favorite?
a. My favorite part of writing is allowing myself to get lost in a daydream. I get to create different worlds and join my characters on their crazy adventures. I love coming up with new ideas and honestly, as a control freak, I love planning the fates of my characters *insert maniacal laughter*

My least favorite part of writing has to be revisions and edits. I never know when to stop!
3) A director tells you that you have complete control over casting the movie version of your book. Who plays who?
a. That is a really great question! I’d have to say Nick Bateman would be the perfect actor for the role of Jesse and Katie Stevens would be a perfect Rocky. The secondary characters are a tossup though, but I’d love to see what my readers think!
4) If your house was burning down and you could save one thing, what would it be (don’t say photo albums, everyone says photo albums)?a. My dog, Roscoe 🙂 He’s not a “thing” to me, but he’s definitely my first priority.
5) If you could choose what one message that a reader takes away from reading your book, what would it be? a. I’d have to say “True friends are very hard to find and even harder to keep, however those that stay are in your life should be cherished.” The same goes for love as well 🙂
6) Imagine a world where everyone wears a t-shirt that says something about who they are as a human being, i.e. “Doesn’t play well with others” or “Don’t talk to me until I’ve had coffee.” What would yours say? a. Definitely “Introvert—Give me some time to warm up”
7) Who has been your biggest supporter in your writing? a. My family has been my number one supporter in this crazy life of writing. They are always the first ones to read my books and encourage me whenever I feel down.
8) What writer do you admire the most and why?
a. I admire so many writers that it’s hard to pick just one. Of course I admire my fellow Limitless Publishing brother and sisters. They are all such a talented bunch and some of the nicest and most helpful people I’ve ever met.
9) If you had only one book to read for the rest of your life what would it be? a. That’s a hard one and I honestly have no idea…if I say “kindle” would that be cheating?
10) Favorite quote about writing, life or otherwise:
a. “Patience is trusting in God’s timing.” It is definitely a quote that resonates with me and has proved true to my life.

S. Briones Lim
INFO:
Book title: Two Outta Three
Amazon Link: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00Y2E0VI6/
Facebook: facebook.com/sbrioneslim and facebook.com/authorsbrioneslim
Twitter: @sbrioneslim
Website: sbrioneslimauthor.wordpress.com
Goodreads link: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/7155647.S_Briones_Lim